REGINA'S

why do couples marry when they will divorce eventually?

i was thinking randomly and they came to my mind.

they have been together for 5 years and eventually, planned to settle down. they prepared everything, invitations sent out. unfortunatly, a couple of days before the big day, unexpectedly, the almost-newly-weds had some reflections about themselves and a huge quarrel fired out. well, best solution was to break-up 'cause it seems that there no way they could live with each other anymore. it's too late. they had paid for the wedding dinners, couldn't make last minutes cancelations. hopelessly, they go on with the wedding so as not to disappoint their families, friends and relatives.

knowing that there's no other way out for them. what would people think when a newly-wed decided to go different ways just after a not mature marriage? they thought having a child might be able to salvage the whole marriage and the "hatred" between them. he tired to be the husband she wants him to be. she tried to be the wife he has always been wanting for. child was due, a huge resposibility for them. knowing that they couldn't give each other love, they plant it on their child. soon, the guy started heading home in last nights, at times, early mornings. all he does was to give the basic allowance to the mother and child. that's his way of showing his love to his child. he hang out till late. his child couldn't even remember how his dad look alike. he doesn't knows how well his child did in his exams, he doesn't ask, he doesn't know anything about the mother and child.

he found a new love. she's nice. they were in love of course. the ladyl knew he's married. she tried to shun him many times yet he kept holding her back. the love between was so strong that this carried on for years. the lady eventualy, woke up her mind, knowing that there wouldn't be a future for the both of them. each and everything the lady tired to speak her mind up, he guy would said he will divorce. months and months, where's the separation form? she left him eventually, yet he kept coming back.

what about his wife? doesn't he knows that she has always been waiting for his love to return? why would a women take such a high risk of having her man's child when she knows that there will be no future. she will only be left with the love from her child and not her man. the love that should be belong to her wasn't hers. she believes that having his child would bring him(love) back.

why would a lady willing to scarifice just for love? bearing his child even when she knows that he will never love her the way he did. she's willing to swallow the insults and gossips coming from others that he husband is having an affair outside. she suffered all alone. her parents know nuts about her marriage. she's in pain. but do she really need all these suffers? she could have left her man. why is she still staying?

then, a month married couple went searching for re-sales units. so excited and nervous to get their new house when the handed the agent their $1000 deposit. that was the best day of their life when they finally found a house, which means they are gonna have their own family. hand in hand, they went searching for banks to get their bank loan approval done. 3 days later, DBS accepted their request. 7 weeks later, along with the agents and sellers, they met at hdb hub to have their first appointment. papers signed. a little more steps to a new family.

2 months later, few days before the completion. the agent receive a call from them. "sorry, we couldn't buy that house anymore. we are divorcing." questionmarks flew everywhere.

why was the love so short?

i asked M, how did he knew that his wife was the one? he repiled: "when you know that without her , you will die." it seems like verbally nonsense. everyone can fall in love like they can die without the other party. whereas, it's partially true somehow.



so many people taking marriage like a game these days. how do we spend 3/4 of our life facing the same person everyday when you can get sick shit if you both meet everyday. so, how did your grandma and grandpa maintian their relationship? how did your mum and dad do it?